Are you 21 years old or older? Are you still a virgin? Do you want to lose your virginity?
If you answered “yes” to all of the questions above, you’re not alone – and you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
While I’m only in my early 20’s, I have been a licensed sex worker for nearly five years, and I’m proud to say that one of my specialties is counseling and deflowering adult virgins. In my time as a legal prostitute, I have taken the virginity of hundreds of adult men, and I’m very pleased to report that every single one of them left my boudoir utterly and thoroughly satisfied.
Through my experience, I’ve come to understand the anxiety many adult men feel when they yearn to lose their virginity. You want to meet women, date, and enjoy the social and carnal pleasures of life, but your lack of experience with sex and your inexpertness at pleasing your partner causes you to become introverted. You shy away from the pursuit of romantic relationships and you end up spending far too many nights alone, dreading the possibility that you may live your entire life without ever having a sexual relationship.
The first thing you need to understand is that you’re not the only adult that ever had these thoughts. While adult-aged virgins are not the norm, there are millions of people that never had the opportunity to have sex until well after their teenage years. I’ve spent time with men in their 50’s, 60’s, and even 70’s that, for one reason or another, never had the opportunity to have sex until their encounter with me. Everyone’s sexual journey is different and unique. You should never feel shame or self-loathing because of your individual sexual situation. You need to experience sex at your own pace and love yourself for the one-of-a-kind person that you are.
Most adults visit sex workers like me to lose their virginity because they want to experience sex for the first time with someone that is compassionate and understanding; so that a sexual novice can lose his virginity in a way that will ease his anxiety and position him to be a better lover with his future sex partners. These individuals want to go to a private place where they can fully explore their desires with a nonjudgmental lover. Currently, I work at the legal brothel Sheri’s Ranch near Las Vegas, Nevada. The brothel is entirely discreet and offers numerous private bungalows where we can make ourselves comfortable, get to know one another, assuage your anxieties, and effortlessly drift into our sexual encounter. As a licensed prostitute at the ranch, I am tested weekly for sexually transmitted diseases, ensuring that there is absolutely no chance of any negative effects to my client’s health. There is literally nothing to worry about when you lose your virginity to me.
In 2016, I participated in a Reddit AMA (Ask Me Anything) on the topic of deflowering adult virgins. Below are some selections from that question and answer session:
Q: Do you have any sort of "virgin package?" Do you treat virgin men differently then men who are experienced?
A: Great question, thank you! I don't treat virgins differently at all, the only part that takes extra attention is getting the physical part to where it needs to be. I've always been an open communicator in the bedroom, so I don't hesitate to give my partner feedback if what they're doing is working or not.
Q: any virgins that were actually good at fucking for their first time?
A: Yes! If you're open to instruction you'd be surprised how quickly you can please your partner.
Q: I actually lost my virginity to a prostitute. I think everyone should have that right. But one frustrating thing during the session with the prostitute was that I struggled to get an erection. I think it was because I had been watching too more porn. Do you get many guys who, once they're in bed with you, discover they can't get an erection without porn?
A: I have turned on porn in many of my sessions, yes. When I watch porn with a partner it's to heighten the mood. Is it necessary? No.
Q: Do you ever get clients that have physical disabilities?
A: Yes, I do. I love working with all types of people, and individuals with disabilities are no different.
Q: I've now been single for four years and have worked through my issues but I've been single for so long that I have a hard time picking up signals. My virginity doesn't usually bother me, although I miss being in a relationship, it's more being a virgin is a big deal to everyone else. Most people will incessantly make fun of virgins, as if it's some big deal. My main issue is I find it hard to just have casual sex. I feel like I need to be in a close relationship with someone first. Only my closest friends know I've never had sex and we joke about it every now and then. You seem to enjoy what you do and it makes me hopeful that I'll meet someone someday and settle down. I'd just like to thank you for making being a virgin not such a bad thing. I guess my question is what advice would you give to someone in my position?
A: Since your virginity doesn't bother you, I would suggest the first step is getting back into socializing and get to a point where you feel comfortable doing so. If you feel like you need physical experience before you decide to go any further, then the services I offer may be a good alternative for you. Being a virgin isn't a bad thing at all, sometimes all someone needs is a little push into the right direction.
When someone is used to a certain routine of masturbation for a long period of time it can make doing the real thing a bit more difficult. It's not something to be embarrassed about, if you're honest about your anxieties then you can slowly shift towards a healthier routine for sexual activity. It helps to have a balance, if your brain gets comfortable with using porn 100% of the time to relieve stress sexually it'll have no motivation to seek out the real thing.
Q: Hi Roxanne! Can you speak to your experience with clients and erectile problems? I would imagine the added dynamic of financial involvement to sex can be a source of pressure for some, what would you say are the best ways to approach "performance issues"( although I HATE it as a phrase)?
A: Great question! I recognize that the transaction part of things can be nerve wracking for some. I have a positive approach to discussing fantasies and finances in a reasonable amount of time. It's so important how you frame sensitive subjects like these. I'm honest about what my goals are, and at the same time I enjoy connecting and building the mood. If my customer isn't at ease then I like to communicate on why they're feeling that way. If we can work together to get past it then the performance isn't compromised at all, most of the times it's not a problem but it doesn't always work out. I conduct my services in a realistic manner that is comfortable for both sides.
Q: Would you say virgins are a kink of yours? Or do you like the idea of being a big moment in as many men as possible? I guess I'm asking; What is your main motivation?
A: Yes, virgins are a special kink of mine. I relish in the fact that I could be someone's first. I'm very down to earth so I feel like my personality is good for the deflowering kind of experience. My motivation is trying to help as many people as I can, while remaining sincere and offering open arms without judgement to the ones who need it the most.
Q: Ever had a client with a very small penis? Even a micro penis? How did you handle it?
A: Yes I've experienced this, it can be a sensitive subject for some and for others they wield it with an extreme amount of confidence. It's not something that bothers me, there are ways to work with what you have no matter what size your member may be.
Q: Due to my upbringing, I haven't had a lot of physical intimacy in my life. Have you experienced a lot of people like me that just yearn to be held for a while?
A: A lot of the men and women that come to me for my services lack the physical comfort of being held or given any kind of regular affection in their lives. I'd have to answer that by saying the majority want to be held... I love being intimate with someone, especially when it's a new feeling to them!Cuddling is so therapeutic, it's been proven to yield positive health results. Pretty neat stuff.
Q: Do you often (or ever) climax with your clients?
A: Yes, absolutely! I know my body extremely well, so it's quite easy for me to reach climax.